When is the right time?

*Sorry about all the post today just had some things I wanted to get out there.

When is it the right time to tell someone about your HIV status?

This goes alittle into my previous post about being honest about you HIV status but I just wanted to expand on it a bit more.  Now you already know my opinion on the matter on it, but here are some other ways I believe might work the best.

You have have to decide for you what works best for you and the situation you are in.

First things first PLEASE makesure that you tell your potential partner before anything serious happens.  It is just not worth risking the legal ramifications that it could lead to, or or risk hurting someone else.

So if you are talking to a guy online, why dont you just open up and tell him then.  I find this easier than meeting in public or at their place and then risking those really awkward moments or even embarrassment.  If you tell them online and they dont want anything to do with you than you dont need them in your life to start with.

If you meet a guy at the club and you think things might have a chance of getting serious, pull him aside before it is time to leave and tell him.  This gives him a chance to allow the news to sink in, and for him to make his own decision.

Which ever way you choose to do it, remember it is their right to say no.  Dont try to push it on them because it just makes you look sad and desperate.

If a guy decides that after you tell him you are HIV positive, that he would still like the chance to get to know you better than that is great.  But for the both of you, if the relationship moves on to the next level ALWAYS use protection.  This is not just to help protect him but also you.  Isnt one STD bad enought?

In each situation you have to decide how and when it is the right moment to tell your potential partner.

I would love to hear back on when others think it is the best time to reveal your status to someone.